I need advice

My last post really highlighted my love life. Not all of the issues have been resolved, but I think that I’ve finally reached the point where I can move on from the boy I talked about. I now have An all new problem, and I decided to reach out to all of you for help. There’s this boy in my theatre class, lets call him Connor, and I think he may be interested in me, but I can’t be sure. I think he may be gay, but I can’t be sure, and I’m sure as hell not going to ask him (unless u think I should?) A few months ago when we had a sub and were playing a game, one cheerleader asked if me and a friend of a friend, Cindy, were “a thing”. I announced to her face (a little loudly, bit embarrassing) that I was gay. I’m fairly sure most of the room heard. Well in this game (a murder mystery) at this point we had to close our eyes while Connor chose who got to be the killer. I had caught him staring at me earlier, and as soon as I closed my eyes, he chose me. I’ve caught his eye once it twice, but we’ve never really talked. Recently, he moved behind me in class. The same day, he came and sat at my lunch table. I didn’t dislike Connor at the time,but I didn’t really know him. As far as I knew, we have no common friends. I figured someone invited him, and I felt awkward talking to him. Halfway through lunch he left. When we got into choir he sat right next to me, but we didn’t talk then either. We are working on our one act unit in theatre, and he invited me to be in his group. This is the first time we really talked, and he was really nice and funny. I made a decision to ask Cindy what his deal was, and she seemed very sure that he was gay. I later talked to Amber, the friend of Cindy’s that I was friends with. She said that she didn’t know, and that Cindy isn’t nearly as smart as she thinks she is. This is going to be an ongoing project in Theatre, and I’m looking forward to talking to him again. I need someone to tell me if I’m making this all up in my head or if something is actually going on here. If so, what should I do? Should I ask him out? Should I ask for his phone number? Should I give him mine and wait for him to call me?

4 thoughts on “I need advice

  1. There is no way of finding out unless you ask him. Do it casually as if it’s not a big deal. Perhaps the best route is to get to know each other as friends, not to expect a romantic relationship, and to allow something to blossom naturally. There are some people that has instant connection, they spark, they click. But if that’s all you have, it may not sustain the relationship for longevity.


      1. I suppose that could be taken either way. In doing things casually and approach things from a friendship route, you give yourself the opportunity to observe his behavior and evaluate the situation further. You may realize that it is all in your head and you’re merely projecting, or that he’s actually into you. You may discover that it is something that you may want to explore, or that he’s repulsive and want nothing to do with him. If he is not into you, you save yourself from embarrassment and unnecessary heartache. The overall point is, just be cool and don’t think too much of it.
        As guys, we are fairly simple. If we’re into you, you’ll know. You wouldn’t have to guess.
        The question you’ll have to prepare yourself for is, what would you do if he likes you?


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